- "The Tapestry of Relationship" originally appeared in the February 2024 relationship issue of COMO Magazine.
According to the dictionary, a relationship is how two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected. In the earlier years of my life, the word “relationship” would immediately conjure images of romantic entanglements — who was dating whom, who was married to whom. However, as I navigate the journey of life, my understanding of relationships has evolved. It’s more than just choosing life partners; it’s about the intricate web of connections that define us.
Our lives are interwoven with various relationships, some of our choosing and some chosen by the family we are born into. If we look deeper, these relationships become a mirror reflecting who we are. I am a wife, a mother, a daughter, a friend, a boss, and a community member — each role shaping a piece of my identity. Yet, each relationship demands time, commitment, and effort — precious resources not easily replenished. Ironically, the more relational we become, the scarcer these resources seem to be.
Nurturing relationships requires a conscious effort — kind of like tending a garden, I imagine. It’s an investment that demands attention, care, and reciprocity. Much like any ecosystem, relationships thrive on mutual nourishment. It’s a delicate balance — what you don’t feed will surely wither away.
The question then arises: How do we navigate this delicate dance of building and maintaining relationships in a world where time is such a precious commodity?
In my opinion, one of the most rewarding aspects of relationships is the depth and strength they can attain over time. A personal favorite is the kind of relationship built on a solid foundation, where one can spend quality time, step away, and return later to seamlessly pick up where it was left off. This phenomenon is particularly evident in my relationships with some of my closest girlfriends. These bonds, created in many of shared experiences, have weathered the test of time.
The dynamics of these friendships have evolved — from spending all our time together during a particular season in life to now having only quick weekend visits a few times a year. Despite the physical distance and the passage of time, the essence of these relationships remains unchanged. It’s a testament to the enduring power of genuine connections.
As the often-overused saying goes, it’s not the quantity of time spent together but the quality of the moments shared.
These enduring friendships have taught me that relationships are not static; they evolve, adapt, and withstand the trials of life. The key lies in nurturing the bonds that matter most, recognizing that the ebb and flow of life may alter the dynamics but not the core connection. Quality, it seems, trumps quantity in the realm of relationships … the threads that weave the intricate tapestry of our lives.
They define who we are, shaping our identity through the roles we play in various spaces. While the demands of time, commitment, and effort can be daunting, the rewards of genuine connections are immeasurable.
Like a well-tended garden, relationships flourish when nurtured with care and attention. Here’s to hoping we cherish the quality of our connections, savoring the richness they bring to the mosaic of our existence.
Adonica Coleman is the founder of The COMO 411 and owner of A2D Events.