Reflections: Counting the Years

As I celebrated my fortieth birthday, it felt like a significant milestone, a point of reflection on the passage of time and the aging process. Yet, as the years have rolled by, that milestone has faded into memory, and I find myself pondering the notion of age and how it truly affects our sense of self. Do we become defined by the number of years we’ve accumulated, or is age merely a state of mind?  

Reflecting on conversations with close friends, we often talk about whether we feel as old as we once imagined these milestone ages to be. The consensus? None of us feel old in the way we once perceived it during our youth. This prompts a deeper question: are we truly only as old as we feel? 

Certainly, there are mornings when creaky joints and unexplained aches serve as unwelcome reminders of the passing years. Yet, despite these physical reminders, there remains an undeniable zest for life that transcends the constraints of age. It’s the energy that propels us forward, the longing to embrace all that life has to offer. 

In a society obsessed with youth, where age is often equated with decline, it’s easy to believe the notion that advancing years equate to a diminished sense of self. But what if we challenge this narrative? What if we choose to redefine the concept of aging, embracing each passing year as a testament to our resilience and wisdom? 

Feeling good, regardless of age, begins with a shift in mindset. It’s about embracing the richness of experience that comes with each passing year, recognizing that age is but a number, not a limitation. It’s about celebrating the milestones and embracing the journey, knowing that every wrinkle tells a story, and every gray hair is a badge of honor. 

Moreover, feeling good is intrinsically linked to how we choose to care for ourselves, both physically and emotionally. It’s about prioritizing self-care, nurturing our bodies and minds with healthy habits and positive affirmations. It’s about finding joy in the simple pleasures, whether it’s a brisk walk on our beautiful trails or a leisurely afternoon spent with loved ones. 

But perhaps, most importantly, feeling good is about embracing change with open arms, welcoming the inevitable shifts that come with each stage of life. It’s about letting go of the unrealistic expectations of youth and embracing the beauty of authenticity. It’s about finding contentment in the present moment, rather than longing for an idealized version of the past. 

As I navigate the journey of aging, I am continually reminded that feeling good knows no age limit. It’s a mindset, a conscious choice to embrace life with open arms and an unwavering sense of optimism. So, to all those who may harbor fears about growing older, remember this: age is merely a number, but the ability to feel good is timeless. Embrace it, cherish it, and let it guide you on the path to a well-lived life, no matter your age. 

Adonica Coleman is the founder of The COMO 411 and owner of A2D Events.